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Aus Sniper01 wrote:Your girlfriend wouldn't happen to be Katie wolf would it lol

She's cheating on me?!?!?!

'[R-DEV wrote:Riki_Rude_BTYC']I think the thing is, it's not PR is more important then your gf, it's the fact that you either see her everyday or you have to talk to her everyday on AIM for like 3 or 4 hours, when you could be playing. And it's not liek you are doing anything productive, you are just sitting there chatting with them.

That's exactly it. Especially so if you have a live-in gf or spouse. My gf used to complain all the time about me gaming but it's gotten better now. I try to spend an hour or less each day (minus weekends) and not ignore her outright.

It's not that the game is more important than her, it's just something to DO. It's the middle of winter here and I hate television. We can't go to the pool, or out for walks, or to a cafe, or anything. It's cold. So when I get home from work and the gym, staring at TV like a zombie doesn't sound like fun. Especially the type of mindless shit she watches.

And if you pay close attention, "spending time together" for women almost always equates to "watch tv with me. Because it's a rarity for us females to ever be interested in something other than this fascinating box. Hobbies? WTF is a hobby, babe? I have tv."

LOL!!!

This is a great thread. But if you can reason with her, have her just get Xfire and talk to her while you play. Dont take that girl for granted. If she wants to call you, a good idea would be TS/ventrilo or Skype for alternatives. A headset is much more gamer freindly.

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vanity wrote:That's exactly it. Especially so if you have a live-in gf or spouse. My gf used to complain all the time about me gaming but it's gotten better now. I try to spend an hour or less each day (minus weekends) and not ignore her outright.

It's not that the game is more important than her, it's just something to DO. It's the middle of winter here and I hate television. We can't go to the pool, or out for walks, or to a cafe, or anything. It's cold. So when I get home from work and the gym, staring at TV like a zombie doesn't sound like fun. Especially the type of mindless shit she watches.

And if you pay close attention, "spending time together" for women almost always equates to "watch tv with me. Because it's a rarity for us females to ever be interested in something other than this fascinating box. Hobbies? WTF is a hobby, babe? I have tv."

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^^ omg my X was just like that, I hear you bro.

PS.
FUNNIEST Fing THREAD EVER!

LOl i was playing with katie wolf just now!!! And holy shit this thread took off man. When i said that i told her i was fixing a patch i turned on PR right there and then and i come back now to see this. Wow guys wow. And when you talk to your female a lot like i do and you see like every other day aint nothing wrong with a little alone time so its not like i blow her off its just that i payed for this game i want to play it!! well i payed for nilla anyway.

This thread definatly rules.

I know what you mean vanity exactly (I used to live with my last gf). Lucky for me my girlfriend is into video games (she's obsessed with guitar hero I/II right now. So when we are at her house we watch movies and play guitar hero and other stuff, or hit up the mall. And the thing is my gf lives in a crummy area, so she only has like 2 or 3 friends. So she usually just sits at home on the computer and I gotta sit on the other end for a few hours talking to her. Because she rather talk to me on here then paint or whatever. It's good when she has homework or goes out with her friends for a night.

lonelyjew wrote:Anyone who chooses a video game(even if it's for a mod as fine as this one) over a girl should be subject to getting beaten with a ball peen hammer by gamers without girlfriends.

one time i made my girlfriend cry by playing too much bf2 and not paying attention to her. it was pretty funny. when confronted about it, i told her the importance of maintaining my 5 kdr on sharqi. shes not my girlfriend anymore.

i just cant be with someone who doesnt respect the kdr.

Ive only made a girl cry once and that was in sixth grade. ANyone wann hear how?

Punish her? hahah good suggestion

re post above me: yes go on.

Ive mad plenty of girls cry, once because I ripped her pink dress (year one), but then she was a ***** to me...

i mad a girl cry once in the sixth grade b/c i went out with her best friend and she liked me a lot. i also made fun of her. im not proud cause i see now that she was a cool person and if we would have stayed friends i could have totally hit that a few years down the road.

Not to get preachy (okay, maybe a little), but:

Holy objectification of women, Batman!

Anyways, my girlfriend was fine with downloading Xfire, and yes, sometimes you have to just go prone in the open under fire and take a bullet to the gut to respond, but that's love, folks. Even if you're not ready to say you'd give your real life for her, can't you spare a fake one?

I'm at school but am able to see her every weekend. Except on rare occasions (like when she wants to watch a movie she knows I really don't want to), I don't play videogames on weekends. As for weekdays, I just use my best judgment (though I sort of let it lapse tonight). If we're having a nice conversation, if she's sad, or if I've played a lot recently, I use my head and just say no to the urge. She's fine with me taking a break every once in a while to play games, and out of respect I try to keep it down to an hour and a half or less. Other than that, I do my best to play while she's at work, class, or asleep.

And if your significant other is understanding about your gaming, don't forget to make the extra effort to be understanding of some hobby they have that you might not get.

Relationships are about sacrifice, and if you're not willing, do both of you a favor and let them know you've already made your choice.

/endpreachiness

Lothrian wrote:How old are you Wolf if you dont mind me asking? This could clearly define the differences between thoughts.

14

'[R-TFA wrote:Wolfmaster']14

Now compare Wolmasters posts with just about anyone elses, mine included, who comes out as the more mature?

On topic:
If your GF is on the level with you playing games, by all means play your hearts out, play like there is no tomorrow!
Just don't whine about how your GF won't let you alone so you can play games.
I'm aware that there can be girls or boys who can't accept anything less than 100% of your attention but I hope they are rare and far between. Most of the time you will have to compromise.

Just to clarify one thing;
When you have Xfire or MSN open for chatting with the GF, is she aware that you are playing a game at the same time?

Just don't let your GF in on these forums, all right?

BlakeJr wrote:Now compare Wolmasters posts with just about anyone elses, mine included, who comes out as the more mature?

How old were you again Blake? I think you were 37 when you fried, so maybe 38 now?

Just curious.

Holy sh*t. I laughed so damn hard reading this entire thread. wow. I'm tired now.

Let me give a perspective from near the other end of the gaming spectrum. I'm 39 (40 in August...ARGH!!!!!!), married, with two children of Five and Four. Needless to say we live in the same house.

My wife knows that I game, she understands that it is my hobby. She would rather I spent every night with her, but she understands that game playing is my way of unwinding (although I've always said that a peck on the cheek and a "come to bed darling" is the quickest method of shutting down a PC known to man.) I could quite happily - if I was a singleton - game pretty much every night, but in any relationships there are compromises to be made.

In my case I game three nights a week, Tuesday, Wednesday and Sunday, after 2100 and leave the machine off the other four nights. If we need to check e-mail or book flights we use the PC in the kitchen or the laptop in the lounge, not the gaming rig in the study.

This "compromise" (a more important word in relationships than you could possibly imagine) means two things

1) ON the nights I don't game my wife knows she has my undivided attention for important stuff like talking. Yeah Yeah I can hear you laugh, but communication is as important with your partner as it is with your squadmates on VoIP.... sorry, couldn't resist that.

2) On the nights I do game, I don't get any hassle or interruptions.

This arrangement has worked well for over ten years.

Where am I going with all this? Well in the case of the OP tell your girlfriend that there are some nights that you don't want to be disturbed. Tell her that it isn't because you don't love her, or because you are trying to avoid her, it's that you need "down time" in order to relax, and this means not communicating with anyone. The flipside of this is that when you are out together, you should make her the most important person in the room. If she can't or won't accept that you have this need - and you had better be sure it's not every night remember that compromise? - then you have to ask yourself which is more important and react accordingly.

I know this sounds mushy, even wimpy, but believe me it pays dividends in the long run.

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Just gotta know... How many of the people around here would choose to stay at home to game rather than to go out, meet girls (or men if thats your cup of tea), get seriously drunk and party all night long?

rofl @ this thread

@Red Halibut
Great post and therei s nothing mushy or anything about it, that is the way it ought to be! And holy **** the voip comparision madem e cry a little from laughing so hard!

@gyberg
I think everyone can agree they would rather go out meeting people and getting wasted rather then play PR! Well depending on the type of drinks there are and how much it costs and who the people are.


On ONE more note, just because I don't want to see like a bad boyfriend or anything, the thing is, me and my girlfriend don't really talk about stuff online. She isn't much of a talker or anything, so it's like I'm sitting there on AIM or the phone and it's mostly silence. She never starts topics or anything, it's totally different when we are together, but, it's just annoying sitting on the phone with her, with neither of us saying anything for 15 minutes and when I say "Want me to let you get to bed?" she says "No." And when nothing is said while on AIM for quite sometime and I decide to put up an away message (Sometimes my away message even says "just call me") she doesn't call me and leaves me messages on AIM like "where are you?" and "come back!" and all I can think is "I can't see your friggen messages! Just call me like my friggen thing says" And when i say that to her she just says "Well I didn't want to bother you." And I always try to explain "you wouldnt be bothering me!" because if she called I would just finish out that round or just get off if its the beginning of the round.

My girlfriends only 18 (19 in March and I turn 21 in April) and I just don't know how to deal with a younger (all my other gfs have been older then me) girl that doesn't go out much and ths is her first real relationship.


Maybe and older mate on here has some advice for me! Because I do love her dearly!